Children often don’t understand why parents instruct, correct, or set limits for them. Your kids likely question your wisdom and motivations. Although your children may resist your parenting, don’t give up. There will be times when you’d rather escape than confront, rest than correct, or do the job yourself instead of instructing your children to do it. Parenting requires sacrifice and work. Be courageous to challenge your children in spite of their resistance.
How you view your children and what you think about correction can help you stay calm when things get tough. Imagine a car dealership where a man named Martin works in the showroom. Martin shows cars to prospective customers. If he sees a car without a door, he’s surprised and upset. He doesn’t expect to see defects. Cars in the showroom are supposed to be finished.
When kids fight it's best to work with them separately because each child needs a specific plan for dealing with the other. Furthermore, trying to train them at the same time often results in resistance or even allowing kids to gang up on you, hindering the process.
An important step in a good instruction routine is to consider timing. Parents who realize that a child needs an instruction must stop and think of the best way to present it. Ask yourself, "How can I communicate this problem to my child in the most effective way?" Pausing for just a moment, or in some cases, waiting a few hours, may prove to be the most productive way to deal with a situation.
- Teens Need Relationship
- Giving Instructions
- When Kids Want to Fight
- Unmotivated Children
- The Unmotivated Child
- Sad Instead of Mad
- "That's Not Fair!"
- Look Out For Boasting
- Explain New Rules Before You Start
- Problem Solving & Decision Making
- The Conscience Needs Training
- Building Relationship Makes Kids More Responsive
- Your Child has a Conscience
- The Benefit of Reporting Back
- Addressing Sibling Conflict, Discipline Kids Separately
- Tasks, Problems and Conflict
- Kids Struggle in Different Ways
- Is There a Difference Between Honor and Respect?
- Help Children Take Responsibility - Part 2
- Help Children Take Responsibility - Part 1
- Patterns in Family Life
- Be a Coach to Your Children
- Teaching Tool: A Clear Warning
- "But My Anger is Justified"