During a discipline time, asking your children, "What did you do wrong?" can help them learn to take responsibility for their actions. Sometimes children don't even know what they did wrong. You may have to tell your child, but don't just say it and have your child agree, actually have the child repeat back to you what was wrong and take responsibility for it.
Some children, when asked the question, "What did you do wrong?" will respond, "I didn't do anything wrong" or "I don't know," but they actually do know. In this situation the child is defying the process and trying to skirt the issue. If this is the case, you’ll want to have the child sit in a chair for a while until he or she is ready to come and deal with the problem. It's surprising how quickly a child can remember what the offense was when told to just sit and think about it.
Confession is a spiritual issue. God asks us to confess our sins to him and he also tells us to confess our sins to each other. Debriefing with a Positive Conclusion as part of the discipline process helps children take responsibility for their actions and learn the valuable skill of confession. It takes humility and courage to admit when you’re wrong. Help your children learn to take responsibility for their part of a problem by asking the question, "What did you do wrong?"