One of the ways to change patterns of behavior in children is what we call a Parent/Child Evaluation Meeting. Parents can call this meeting when they see unwanted patterns and are about to focus on change. The beginning of summer is a great time to clearly lay out some new rules and expectations. It's important to plan the meeting well and then choose the timing carefully.
How do your children handle problems and decisions? Some children whine, complain, and have bad attitudes. However, problems and decisions make great opportunities to teach children how to face life's challenges.
In 1 Corinthians 4:4 Paul says, “My conscience is clear, but that does not make me innocent. It is the Lord who judges me.” The reality is that just because the conscience prompts a person, doesn’t mean that it’s right. Children need to be careful to obey God first in everything they do.
Many parents see a problem and start giving instructions immediately. This often means that they yell across the parking lot or bark commands from one side of the house to the other. We believe this approach isn't the best. It's not enough to see the need and tell someone to respond to it. That approach doesn't demonstrate value for the relationship. Parenting isn't just about getting tasks done; it's about building relationships at the same time.
- Your Child has a Conscience
- The Benefit of Reporting Back
- Addressing Sibling Conflict, Discipline Kids Separately
- Tasks, Problems and Conflict
- Kids Struggle in Different Ways
- Is There a Difference Between Honor and Respect?
- Help Children Take Responsibility - Part 2
- Help Children Take Responsibility - Part 1
- Patterns in Family Life
- Be a Coach to Your Children
- Teaching Tool: A Clear Warning
- "But My Anger is Justified"
- Learn to Recognize Emotional Signals
- Teaching Children Honor In The Bathroom
- Overcoming Selfishness With Honor
- What is Your Action Point?
- Compliance versus Obedience
- Understanding Obedience
- How a Child Can Be a Servant at Christmas
- Christmas Is The Time to Teach Generosity
- The Heart is a Wrestling Place
- The Gratitude Principle
- A Budding Leader
- Tasks, Problems, Conflict