A busy father comes home from work hoping to relax with his wife and enjoy his children. Instead, he walks into a land mine of relational issues. Children are bickering and Mom is frazzled. Even the dog has retreated to a quieter room in the house. Likewise, a mom comes home from work wanting to share a couple of interesting stories with her family only to find that, instead, everyone wants a piece of her.
I'm sure that as you look around you see other families who have rather interesting relationships with their kids. Some parents seem to have a boss/servant relationship with their children, as if the parents own their kids. They order them around as if they were slaves, being demanding about obedience and respect. Others act like a policeman allowing children to do anything they want within boundaries. When the children move outside the boundaries then the parent blows the whistle to get them back in line. Other parents have a little prince relationship with their children. These parents go out of their way to make their children happy, sometimes trying to make up for their own unhappiness as a child.
One of the tools of discipline is a clear warning. It can actually be a teaching tool because it helps children know how to anticipate consequences of their actions. Furthermore a clear warning clarifies for your children that what you have said wasn't just a suggestion, but that you meant business.
Some view their anger as justified because they are right and others are wrong. They believe that being right is the only ticket required to launch into an adult temper tantrum. But saying "He made me angry" implies that external events require emotional intensity. The dad who links the trigger (what "made" him angry) and response (what he does with his anger) too closely ends up believing that others have made him the way he is.
- Learn to Recognize Emotional Signals
- Teaching Children Honor In The Bathroom
- Overcoming Selfishness With Honor
- What is Your Action Point?
- Compliance versus Obedience
- Understanding Obedience
- How a Child Can Be a Servant at Christmas
- Christmas Is The Time to Teach Generosity
- The Heart is a Wrestling Place
- The Gratitude Principle
- A Budding Leader
- Tasks, Problems, Conflict
- Parenting Insight For You To Use Now
- Sibling Conflict, Discipline Kids Separately
- Use Anger to Spark Creativity
- You Don’t Want to Raise a People Pleaser
- Make Mealtimes Fun
- Why a Bedtime is Important
- Teach Children to Take a Break
- Other Leaders and Authorities
- The Real Value of Learning to Obey
- What Cues Do You Give Your Children?
- Parenting Insight You Can Use Now - Part 4
- The Value of Listening